Was there an option to opt out of becoming a grown up???

I mean, I’m here now but is it possible for me to warn others?

★Watch out when you take that leap to leave middle school and go into high school, you’re right around the corner from final exams and 20 page papers on a regular basis.

★Then when you leave college, you can look forward to paying back those student loans they tempted you to take. Lol.


Maybe there was a time I could have revised the “Adult” contract. Someone probably explained it after I pulled an all-nighter to finish projects/assignments assigned at the same time, all due on the same day.

Not everything about adulthood is horrible but I’d definitely like to renegotiate the contract. I’d like a few weekdays to just watch shows and cartoons that were out in the 90’s. I’d like the clothes to cost the same. And I want my mom to pack my lunches and cook dinner each night.


Other than that, I must say I enjoy what I learn about myself each day. I appreciate my spiritual journey I’ve taken and my relationship with God. I love stilettos and cardigans. And spending quality time with my boyfriend without my parents having to drop me off or any parental supervision is pretty cool.

☆Those of you not quite into adulthood, don’t rush things.
☆Live and appreciate your childhood, adolescence and teen years because you’ll miss them once they’re gone.
☆Have a good lawyer on hand to negotiate your “Adult” contract before you get here.

Who do you think you’re talking to???

God places different types of people in your life to play different roles. You have different people to talk to for different reasons.

You don’t have to talk to your boyfriend about the same subjects you talk to your best friend about. Especially if you’ve started to notice disjointing in those relationships when you try to talk about certain subjects.

Sometimes it takes a while to realize who plays what role. And you may have to get your feelings hurt a few times before you get a clear understanding. But it’s well worth knowing the best sources to go to about work issues, a tv series love affairs (like Fitz and Olivia), pop culture or any random item on your mind.

Just know, there’s nothing wrong with knowing who to talk. It can definitely strengthen relationships. And give you a proper outlet for whatever may be on your mind.

Speech less words…

In every relationship, there are times when you will have nothing to talk about. Are you ok with that??? Or are you like me, bothered when there’s “nothing” to talk about??? Though, it’s normal. The silence can feel so strange, so cold. Listen to my silence…


What happens when the talking ends??? When nothing else is said. Where do the words go???

Do they just disappear, cease to exist or are they only hidden out of sight???

Do they ever come back??? Will they surface when they’re ready??? Should I call them to come back??? Do they know when to come???

Will they come back soon??? Are they gone for very long??? Or will all my hair be gray before their return???

Will I just be left waiting???

Will there be a sign or a sound??? How will I know once they’ve returned??? Will they still be silent, will there still be silence???

Will I hold them back or let out too many with no concern??? Will he use them??? Will he listen to them???

Will he understand them or not even try??? Will he hear the words through the sounds??? Or is it easier to listen to the words when they sound like nothing???

Just a thought turned to a question turned to a post.

A new meaning to the “do over”…

As a child, using do overs was the game changer. You’d lose then say ‘do over’, ready to try again. When did you lose that want to do better the next time? Why are you so afraid to take chances? Why don’t you look at each day like a child’s ‘do over’?

Everyday is an opportunity. A restart. A new chance. No one makes you throw away your day, your opportunity. You do that on your own.

Take each day and own it.

Try harder, live better, learn more, love deeper, say less,  listen more, don’t compromise your values and be someone else’s blessing at least once everyday.

Let’s be more like children each day… curious and imaginative.

Are you what makes your life boring???

This is a question I continuously ask myself. I’m very outgoing and I love to socialize but once I moved to Atlanta after I graduated… I became very boring.

My face of relentless bordem

If I’m not at work, a church/church related function/meeting or visiting my boyfriend; I’m in my apartment. Alone. 😦

I understand it’s important to have alone time to renew and think but I think I take it a bit far. You can understand if you watch Sex and the City the movie and The Devil Wears Prada every weekend while stuffing your face. (I’m starting to look like Samantha at the baby shower for Baby Rose.)



Even at times when I make plans, I end up falling asleep. Sometimes I wonder if my body’s sabotaging me from having fun. Even tonight, I’m blogging about being the boredom in my own life. Lol. It’s ridiculous!!!

But as I lIve to InspIre, I write these words to remind anyone in the same slump as me to be your own hero. Only you can prevent bordem in your life.

So, take these steps along with me:

1. Get off your bed, out of your chair or off your couch.
2. Put on something jazzy. (Figure flattering and no sweat pants lol)
3. Grab a friend.
4. Go out and have fun.

Let’s take control of our social lives and stop sitting around. There’s plenty of world for us to see but we’ll never see it if we don’t take that first step.

Tell me if you make it out tonight!!!

Not the “F” bomb … but an explicit term still

I wasn’t sure if this was a smart blog topic or if I’m going to far into my personal deep thoughts. At that moment I knew I needed to blog on it…


I say the word but I’m not sure if it takes on a real meaning to me. Fee_dell_it_e. It’s almost like an urban legend. Someone’s told me about it and someone else can confirm it but I’ve never actually seen it and I can’t really say if I’ve experienced it. So you can’t say it doesn’t exist but you don’t have any finite proof of your own.

So, I just can’t say I’m 100% sure.

Infidelity, on the other hand, exists in full reality for me. Which is funny because I can’t say I’ve seen that firsthand but the aftermath makes it verifiable. Like if a nuclear bomb goes off and you don’t see or hear the “boom” but when the mushroom cloud disappears and a town is demolished, there’s no denial that something happened.

Fidelity somewhat fades in my mind. Infidelity always, kind of, lingers in the far left corner in the very back. It stays in the caged area where dark secrets and fears congregate. But for some reason every once in a while, infidelity escapes and runs a muck.

Not in as much as myself being a culprit but the thoughts of being a victim of the crime arises with the escape. But why???

I just always wonder why infidelity is so real but fidelity seems to be a figment of my imagination. I wonder if my views will ever change or if I’m waiting for a sign. How would I ever know, anyway???

Why is infidelity so easy to prove while fidelity is so circumstantial???